Deciding on how to educate your children may be one of the most important choices you make as a parent. Their social, emotional, and physical well-being need to be taken into account, as does the quality of their education, and their unique learning style.
While some parents seem to have known the answer to this question from day one, others are struggling with what to do as their children inch closer to school age.
Because I have always found that the best way to make a smart decision is to speak with as many people as I can, I went out in search of parent bloggers who homeschool their children, and asked them the following question:
“What is one Pro and one Con of homeschooling?”
The list you are about to read is the result of that questioning. 41 seasoned homeschoolers chimed in with their best experiences and biggest challenges, and I just love the honesty with which they responded.
The answers you read below may help you come to a decision of your own. Good luck, and happy reading!
PRO – My favorite is how much I am learning alongside my children.
I have learned infinitely more than I did during my own school years, and I am grateful for the opportunity to share these moments of education, observation, discovery, and wonderment with my children.
CON – It’s difficult for me to think of a con when there are so many pros! If I had to give a con, it would be that it can be hard on a mom depending on her circumstances, the pressure and expectations she is burdened by, and even her own personality.
The homeschool moms who really thrive are the ones who learn to not look around them at what others are doing, and just stay steady at their own pace in their own unique style.
PRO – The world is your schoolhouse.
Your children are not confined to the four walls of a building, but are out and about, interacting with children their own age, adults, and older people, gaining insight and experience in the real world into which they will enter as well-rounded adults.
CON – The biggest con to homeschooling is that nearly all of your non-homeschooling friends, family members and neighbors think you have all this free time all day and have nothing to do, so they frequently ask for your help with their errands and projects.
And generally, you help them because you're demonstrating a servant's heart to your children. So it's a win-win.
PRO – Homeschooling is flexible! Because of the nature of homeschooling, you can tailor your studies, your schedule, and your teaching style to fit your student's needs!
Your child is the focus of the homeschool process, and the benefits are limitless! In addition, there are so many options with homeschooling.
From co-ops to help with difficult subjects to internships that prepare your high schooler for their future - it's the perfect way to put success in the hands of your kids!
CON – Homeschooling requires a big investment and it's not money! As with anything that is worth doing, homeschooling requires an investment from the parents.
The responsibility of education rests on the parent, however, today there are many resources that help to lighten that load. It takes a lot of heart to work with your children every day, and it's important to take steps to ensure that you don't get burned out!!
PRO – You get to choose the schedule and style that is best for you, your child, and your family.
If you are a stay at home mom homeschooler, working homeschooler, working at home homeschooler, traveling homeschooler etc. you can find and design a schedule that works for you!
CON – You need to stick to this schedule that you just planned! Making sure it is if flexible enough for any emergencies that may spring up, and for when "life" gets in the way. Guarding your time must be a priority as a homeschool mom.
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PRO – One pro about homeschooling is that it is totally flexible and exactly what we want to make it. We get to adapt everything we do to our schedule, our abilities, our interests, and our passions.
We study maps and globes, but we also visit museums, national parks, landmarks, and even other countries and continents.
Sure, we get our math assignment done and learn to spell words, but we also get to go talk with engineers who are using the math and write to real authors who splash those words across their pages.
We read about science and health, but we also 3-D print, pretend play on kids teepees and build drones, volunteer at zoos, and shadow real dentists. The world is our classroom and our lessons are unforgettable.
CON – One con about homeschooling is that it fills our lives in big and sometimes exhausting ways. It's all the joys and hardships of parenting doubled up.
It takes real patience and more heart than you can imagine, You need a team of people who are cheering you on.
With believers behind you, you can do anything, but too often the skeptics stand in your way and cast their doubts.
With a positive tribe who believes in and reminds you of the joys when you're in the middle of the hardships, you can accomplish anything.
PRO – Flexibility. Parents can individualize instruction to the child's needs, and also have the flexibility to make up their own schedules and vacation at off times of the year.
CON – Parents can unwittingly pass on their own academic weaknesses and a dislike for certain subjects if they aren't conscious of their own feelings and aren't willing or able to seek out help from others.
PRO – One pro of homeschooling would definitely be the ability to see your kids master something they struggled with. After hours of working to learn to read and write, the first time it really clicks is enough to take your breath away and make you thankful for the journey.
CON – One con of homeschooling is the constant pressure to reach a standard you can't quantify set by people you don't know without a clear direction as to who is right or wrong.
It means constantly reminding yourself that you don't have to compare, you only have to teach your kids the way they learn best.
PRO – Homeschooling has allowed me to develop close relationships with both of my daughters. I don’t feel like I am behind when new experiences happen in their lives because we spend quite a bit of time together.
Although I don’t necessarily believe that you have to an abundance of time to have a good relationship with your child, I do believe homeschooling provides room for more moments of quality of time which leaves room for conversations and experiences that might not happen if my daughters were at school.
CON – It is true that homeschooling can be isolating especially if you don’t have a circle of friends and family who support you.
Luckily, we do have support within our regular community, but with most things in life there’s a desire to have relationships with those who have a similar life too.
In our early years of homeschooling, being the diversity was hard. I am not only speaking of diversity when it comes to race, but even when it came to being a homeschool mom who worked.
It was hard to find others who related to me. Now there are more working homeschooling moms, but the racial diversity in the homeschool community still lacks.
It’s still very normal for my daughters to be the only Black students in a class even though we live in a more diverse community when it comes to homeschooling.
I do believe homeschooling provides room for more moments of quality of time... #homeschooltips #teepeejoy #blog
PRO – It's hard to just list one pro for homeschooling, but I'd say its
greatest benefit is the gift of time. Children have the opportunity to
learn at their own pace.
In addition, because homeschooling does not take as many hours as traditional school, they have the time to pursue their own interests on a deeper level.
CON – One of the cons is that it can be hard for homeschooling parents to spend so much time with their children without the benefit of adult interaction.
It is so important to have a network of other homeschoolers so that you can have friends to talk with who understand your lifestyle.
PRO – After 10 years of homeschooling, I think my husband and I would agree that homeschooling is one of the best decisions we have made.
The biggest Pro for me is that I have been able to spend all this time with my kids. I've had the privilege to build a closer relationship with them because of the time homeschooling has afforded me.
I've been able to instill our beliefs and values into them, instead of someone else.
CON – My con would also be time spent with my kids! when you homeschool, you spend all of your time with your kids and this can become exhausting when a tired mom doesn't get a break.
My sister once told me you have to remember your "why", which is the reason you began homeschooling in the first place, and always go back and remind yourself of that reason.
I will never regret the tiring moments because of the amazing bond it has created in my family.
PRO – I can meet my children where they are, and work with them to progress at their pace, instead of an arbitrary timeline.
I have sons with learning issues (dyslexia, dysgraphia and auditory processing disorder), and having them at home with me has allowed them to soar.
CON – As a homeschooling mother, I feel like I'm being judged by the outside world, to live up to others' expectations for education.
It's hard for me to close my eyes to the nay-sayers and press on. Having a support team (my husband and close friends) helps me tremendously.
PRO – The biggest pro of homeschooling is the love of learning.
Homeschooling provides the best possible learning environment to encourage the love of learning.
Homeschooling is education safe and secure, allowing children to learn more in a relaxed environment. Parents can create a cozy corner to encourage reading real literature.
Behind a couch, laying on the dog, or cuddling up inside a teepee can be a great way to encourage the true love of reading. Supply the throw pillows or blankets, fill a shelf with age-appropriate books, and presto!
You have created a warm and welcoming environment to promote the love of reading, learning and homeschooling.
CON – The biggest cons of homeschooling is the quantity of books. Homeschool parents constantly battle an overwhelming, always growing collection of books.
A frequent consumer of shelving units, homeschool parents are known to have rooms where all walls are bookshelves, with books littering the floor and filling boxes laying everywhere.
It's not just books they own, either. Homeschoolers are often regulars at the public library, filling boxes of books weekly.
PRO – Homeschooling provides you with the opportunity to help your kids enjoy learning.
You can jump down rabbit holes, explore interests, and add fun to your day. Also, you have the gift of time. You get to know your kids for who they are and select resources that best fit their needs.
CON – It can feel like you never have enough hours in your day to do all the things you need and want to do. There are so many wonderful things to learn about and explore!
Plus, dishes, changing the kids curtains, and dust to distract. To overcome that overwhelm, it's essential to focus on your why and pair those goals with realistic expectations. Also, a good planner can be a homeschool mom's best friend.
PRO – You can adapt to your child's interests, their strengths, and their weaknesses. This becomes especially important as your kids age.
This year each of my children have an independent project geared for their current career plan. I was able to change the math curriculum we were using for my daughter because she wasn't learning with our current curriculum.
CON – Homeschooling is made or broken by Mom's involvement. If the Mom (or primary homeschooling parent) is on top of it and involved homeschooling will surpass all other educational systems because of her passion.
If Mom is lackadaisical, her children will suffer and their education will show it. That can be very stressful for the homeschooling parent.
PRO – Freedom. We are free to homeschool in the style or method that works for our family. Most importantly, I can adapt what we're doing to my children's individual special needs.
CON – The only negative things I can think of are not directly caused by homeschooling, but occur in homeschools all the time. Those negatives are things such as comparison, putting pressure on ourselves to fit in imaginary boxes we think everyone else is in.
A good planner can be a homeschool mom's best friend. #homeschooltips #teepeejoy #blog
PRO – As a mom of an only child I get questioned quite a bit about whether homeschooling is the right choice for a single child. For my family homeschooling is absolutely the right choice for our only child.
The biggest pro of homeschooling an only child is that I can fully allow him to grow and explore his own interests and develop his own passions. It’s easier for a single child family to foster individual learning because the educational focus is placed on only one child.
CON – The biggest con, however, of homeschooling an only child is that mom becomes his partner in all areas of learning where a child needs to work with someone else.
Therefore, I become his lab partner, his exercise partner, and have to try to converse with him for his foreign language study. Therefore, there is often a huge time constraint and learning curve to act as an educational partner for my only child.
PRO – Perhaps the biggest advantage to homeschooling is FREEDOM. We have the freedom to teach our children according to our values, limit the bad influence of unsavory socialization and travel when it suits us, anytime of the year.
CON – The one con to homeschooling would be that it can be hard for the stay at home, homeschooling mom to find time to herself.
PRO – I chose to homeschool for the purpose of having more quality time with my children and making sure that they were learning to live by our values.
That is a huge benefit in my opinion of being not only a guide to your children as a parent, but an instructor as they are working on their academics.
CON – A con that is a byproduct of homeschool is I do not get much time to myself. I know this is just a season of life and one day my children will be grown and out on their own, so I am eager to soak up the time we do have together, but it is part of homeschooling.
PRO – It is truly hard to pick just one pro to share, I have a list of reasons why we homeschool that is nearly 500 reasons long now. If I had to pick just one I think it would be that I believe homeschooling builds a strong family.
You see we are a military family and have moved over a dozen times in the last 20 years. So much changes in our lives, Daddy deployed, we move to a new state, so much change.
One thing was solid, we would be learning and exploring together. The kids could count on us homeschooling where ever we happen to be. The kids have learned they can count on each other as well. We are just such a solid unit together.
CON – With all the moves and homeschooling some of the kids are reluctant to make new friendships. Homeschooling them doesn't really force the matter I think as much as public school does as the kids always know they have their siblings.
Thankfully only one is actually really shy and she does wonderfully if she has one of her siblings with her to meet new people. For sure 4/5 kids are very social and time may help the 5th bloom!
PRO – There are many pros for homeschooling, but one which has been particularly important to me has been the time I've had to spend with my children.
Because of homeschooling, we've had the joy- and sometimes challenge- of being together every day.
This can sometimes cause stress, but it has also led to the unmistakable blessing of strong relationships with my children as they are now teens and young adults.
CON – Although the ability to customize curriculum and teaching methods to each child is a definite pro of homeschooling, this has also led to one of the biggest cons for us.
My college-aged kids sometimes face frustration because they are stuck in a class that seems to them irrelevant or that doesn't work well with their learning styles.
Unlike our homeschooling, they can't just change up what they're doing. They have to stick with it. Although they understand, this sometimes causes frustration and overwhelm.
PRO – It’s hard to choose just one “pro” because there are so many benefits to homeschooling, but the one that comes to mind first is being able to taper your homeschool to each child’s needs.
Children all develop at different rates and have different strengths and weaknesses.
If they go to public school and can’t keep up with the class, they may be labeled, held back, or taunted by the other kids, all of which have a negative affect on the child’s self-esteem, and for life!
But in your homeschool you can give them the time they need to master a concept or skill without that baggage, while at the same time focusing on the areas where they’re stronger.
An example that I can give is when my daughter was about 14, she couldn’t deal with writing assignments. She would sit and look at a piece of paper and cry without writing a single word on it.
I tried handling it in different ways. At the beginning of the following school year, I started out with a lighter load, holding off on algebra. I wanted to give her more time and less pressure until she could over come that roadblock.
She did get past it within a few months and now she’s in college and writes 8-page papers without batting an eye and is an honor student.
So just because your child is having difficulty with something doesn’t mean that they always will, they just may need time to mature and overcome it. They can’t get that in public school.
CON – I have a much harder time thinking of a “con.” Some of them are actually kind of silly.
For example, in a popular post I wrote called “Homeschool Graduates in College ~ From the Professors’ Perspective,” two of the cons the professors lightly gave were that “they expect quick grading and feedback” and “they forget to put their name on their papers.”
A few others mentioned research and note-taking skills. When students reach the high school years, I think it’s helpful for them to take classes from outside sources such as the community college or co-ops, to help prepare them for these expectations.
PRO – Can I choose two? First, the flexibility of our schedule. I love having the quality and quantity time with them and appreciate being able to do school when it works for us, and being able to travel or go on field trips whenever works for us, too.
Vacationing off season is such a gift! I also love the ability to have such a deep understanding of my girls' academic abilities. We are able to speed through things they get quickly, and slow down and dive deep into the subjects they need more practice with.
CON – I really love my girls to have exposure to art, music, and foreign language.
As a homeschooler, I find I need to be more purposeful in my pursuit to find quality avenues for this exposure than I would if they were in school and getting weekly exposure to these subjects in the classroom.
PRO – Did your child learn to walk at exactly the same age as every other baby in the neighborhood? Probably not! What about talk, crawl, or wave goodbye?
Your child learned these early skills when they were ready. In a school setting, children are expected to learn their academic skills on a schedule. At home, they can learn at a more natural pace.
My oldest has Asperger's. Some things come very easily to him, while other skills are a struggle. He started reading the Harry Potter series independently the week he would have started Kindergarten, but at the age of eleven, he still struggles with his fine motor skills.
At home, we can make that work. He can type longer assignments. He can read books that challenge him. We can take time out of our day to be sure he gets occupational therapy.
All three of my kids have the freedom to learn new skills when they are ready. They're never rushed through difficult material or forced to wait for classmates to catch up before being allowed to move on to more challenging assignments.
CON – I am not going to lie, sometimes it's hard! Sometimes I butt heads with my kids. There are days when I want to send them off on the yellow school bus as it rattles on by our house.
There are days that my daughter tries to talk her way out of a math assignment or my youngest son hides his school books.
We're a family made up of imperfect people and this kind of thing is inevitable. In the end, the good days outweigh the bad ones and I wouldn't change it for the world.
Children all develop at different rates and have different strengths and weaknesses. #homeschooltips #teepeejoy #blog
PRO – I love being able to take an individualized approach with each child, according to the way he or she learns best. This is an invaluable experience that children rarely get in a homeschool vs public school setting!
CON – One of the drawbacks of homeschooling is the pressure that it puts on parents. When you decide to homeschool, the full burden of their education is fully on your shoulders.
No dropping them off at school each day and leaving the teaching up to someone else!
PRO – The ability to create a safe place and compassionate learning experience for our children is one of my greatest pros with homeschooling. It is an amazing gift to give our children the freedom to explore whatever interest them without being ridiculed or discouraged. Our children are never asked to lay their childhood interests aside too soon, nor are they limited from advanced interests due to their age.
CON – Everything changes. As soon as you have a great system in place, one of your children will need an exception (or an interest will change, puberty, etc.) Your homeschooling has to evolve. You have to evolve. The constant requirement to improve upon ourselves to better our children's education is challenging. Especially if the parent is set in their ways or doesn't accept change easily. (*cough* not me at all - HA!)
PRO – One homeschool advantage that we enjoyed when I homeschooled my twin boys in 4th grade were a flexible schedule (we played at the park in the mornings and did school in the afternoons while my younger son napped), Bible study, and enjoying chapter books together.
CON – For our family, however, homeschooling was very difficult due to learning disabilities, ADHD, and major outside stressors (military life).
Homeschooling affected my relationship with my sons (as well as my mental health) in a negative way. I realized that I am a better mom when I am not their teacher and that I need more outside support to help them succeed educationally.
They are back in public school for 5th grade and it is a much better fit for our family.
PRO – The births of our eight children spanned a 19 year time period.
I had heard adults talk about never really knowing their older or younger siblings because they didn't attend the same school at the same time and had such different schedules, but I wanted my kids to know each other.
They definitely do—some of them might say they know each other too well! We may not always be in sync or in harmony, but we do life together.
Four of our children have left the nest and four still live at home. I love seeing the strong bonds they have with each other and how those have extended into adulthood.
CON – Homeschooling moms put too much pressure on ourselves when our kids are in the high school years and looking at life beyond our home.
Do you hold your high school guidance counselor responsible for your life beyond graduation and your career path? I didn’t think so. God has a plan for your child and it’s bigger than you.
You will not be the one who makes it happen or the one who derails it. Some children will grow up and follow the exact path you would choose for them and some will go against everything you taught them (don’t worry, this phase might not be permanent).
Do the best you can. Speak the truth in love. Love them unconditionally even if you don’t support their choices. Pray for them and over them.
Your words and example are etched in mind and memory and will bear fruit when least expected. (p.s. - Grandchildren are awesome!)
PRO – You get to watch as your kids progress and tailor their studies to them. If they have a hard time on something, you can seek out solutions and alternative methods of explanation.
Your kids can progress as their own speed, whether that is slower or faster than they would be doing so at school. When there are topics they are interested in, you can make the time to dive in deeper and learn more about it.
CON – The cons is that homeschooling can be a lot of work. It can be intensive, particularly if you have intensive, talkative children.
I think it is common to over think oneself, worrying that one is doing too little or pushing too much. Then sometimes homeschooling can strain a parent-child relationship a bit.
PRO – The number one thing I love about homeschooling is flexibility! We have so much more time to devote to the things we love and explore things that capture our interest.
I also love the ability to travel more and to visit places when they're not as crowded since we have the flexibility to visit on our own timeline rather than following a school schedule.
CON – At first homeschooling was really tough on me -- having all four of my kids around me ALL. THE. TIME. It was definitely an adjustment, and by bedtime everyday my patience still runs pretty thin.
All moms need to remember to take time for themselves, but for a homeschooler it is vital.
PRO – The best part of homeschooling, for me, is the ability to tailor each child's education to him or her. I go for mastery of subjects, so if a child is zooming through basic math concepts, I let her.
If she needs extra help with reading, then we spend more time on it. I think it helps develop self-confidence in a way that doesn't happen in a standard classroom. That makes it a good choice when a child is asynchronous in development.
CON – I won't lie, the time it takes to seek out social opportunities is what makes me sometimes long for the classroom experience. We're secular, so it can be tough to find other secular homeschoolers in our area.
It's always worth it, in the end, but it's also a constant concern of mine: is my child getting out enough and being exposed to others' ideas enough?
PRO – One pro of homeschooling is it has never been easier. Right now, tools exist to give your learner a personalized education that engages and inspires them.
The internet opens up opportunities for curriculum and connection that were impossible just a few years ago. As online education evolves beyond slideshows and voice-overs, homeschooling no longer means sacrificing connection or socializing with other kids.
In fact, homeschoolers now can connect with students around the world while learning about topics that are meaningful to them.
CON – One con of homeschooling is the decision fatigue that can happen. With so much high-quality educational content around today, families have to work with their learners and make some choices.
What topics do the children want to explore? What skills do they want to develop? With the speed at which the world changes and children's interests evolve, these questions can be challenging to answer. It's hard to find everything you need in one place.
Right now, tools exist to give your learner a personalized education that engages and inspires them. #homeschooltips #teepeejoy #blog
PRO – The biggest pro about homeschooling is the freedom it provides. Living a homeschooling lifestyle is exactly what you make it. Your family is able to experience the journey together, which is something that can be challenging, yet liberating at the same time.
CON – The biggest con of homeschooling is that it’s an enormous responsibility that can feel like a burden at times.
Being a stay-at-home, homeschooling mom requires that I wear many hats throughout the day, and as an emphatic introvert, I can easily feel overwhelmed and “done” often.
I didn’t experience that when I worked outside of the home and my children were in school and daycare.
PRO – The closeness of our family as a result of having homeschooled. Our kids are my best friends, and I'm theirs!
CON – There are things they had to learn for themselves in college to complete their undergraduate work. Fortunately they knew how to learn and were successful, but this made extra work
PRO – You get to reclaim your education! I've learned Latin, Biblical Greek, and more English Grammar than most professors. Plus, I decided that I love history.
It was just never presented well to me when I was in school. Our family has also taken advantage of the flexible schedule to travel. Our kids were able to go on our adoption trips to South Korea and Ethiopia.
My favorite part is how well-rounded and socially adjusted my kids are because they are exposed to so many different groups of people and real-life situations.
CON – If you don't set boundaries with your kids, you can all get burned out on each other pretty quickly! It can also be tough to homeschool when you're running a business or working full-time.
PRO – An increasing number of teenagers have been homeschooled their entire lives, and more teens are leaving public school to be homeschooled.
This allows them to learn at their own pace, study what they want, and discover what they really love to do. Free from bullying, peer pressure, and cliques, they can better develop their self-esteem, self-confidence, and independent thought.
It enables them to focus all of their energy on academic and creative pursuits without being preoccupied with problems at school.
These homeschooling teens are studying subjects in depth, taking college classes, volunteering, traveling, and "learning by doing" through apprenticeships, on-the-job training, even starting their own businesses.
CON – There is a need for more detailed record-keeping during high school, especially if your son or daughter plans to attend college.
This can be kind of a pain if you enjoyed a relaxed and unstructured style of homeschooling during the earlier grades. But believe me, when it comes time to create a homeschool transcript, you will be glad that you kept good records!
Documenting activities, courses, hours, credits, GPA, etc. as you go is much easier than trying to piece everything together later.
PRO – Homeschoolers enjoy unlimited educational resources; the world is their classroom, and resources abound in the community. Homeschooling provides a high adult-child ratio for the student.
No busywork. Homeschooled children can accomplish in a few hours what takes a typical classroom a week or more to cover. In many classrooms, less than one hour out of each school day is spent on "on task" learning.
No wonder students have so much homework. And that brings us to a major "pro" of homeschooling: No more homework!
CON – Time Restraints. There's no way around it: learning outside of a school environment can consume a lot of mom or dad's time.
Living Outside the Norm. Like any activity that challenges mainstream thinking, homeschooling may be seen as an oddity at best, or even as a threat to those who unable to accept ordinary parents succeeding where sometimes trained professionals fail.
PRO – I’d say the biggest pro of homeschooling is the significant amount of time it gives back to parents and children to live and learn together.
CON – I think the biggest con of homeschooling is responding to the same, perennial questions about homeschooling—“Why do you homeschool?” and “What about socialization?
PRO – It's hard to choose one pro because homeschooling my two children through high school was an amazingly positive experience for my whole family.
One of the best parts was certainly the freedom we had ... to individualize our children's education, to follow our children's passions, to teach our values, to travel when we wished, and to spend enough quality time with our children that we were always close and still are.
My two children were figure skaters, so we adapted our school schedule around their skating. My son (now 33) was able to have fascinating experiences as a pairs skater while homeschooling, eventually competing and traveling internationally.
He also started his own DJ business during high school and is now the owner and head of one of the largest DJ companies in San Diego.
My daughter (now 28) graduated from homeschool high school at 16 and then had the opportunity to train and compete in ice dance with a dance partner in England.
Because of homeschooling, she was able to do her bachelor's degree work from ages 16-19 while competing internationally in ice dancing.
She was able to use her experiences training in sports and later as a professional ice dancer to create her online business. She loves that she has the freedom now to homeschool her own children.
Through the freedom to be Montessori homeschoolers using character-based unit studies, we were able to follow our children's needs and interests so that they loved learning and followed their own unique passions.
They thoroughly enjoyed their bachelor's degree work after homeschooling, got straight A's, and both became entrepreneurs who continue to love learning and creating.
CON – The only real con I experienced with homeschooling became a benefit in some ways. I tended to not plan as well as I should have and to get way off schedule at times.
My children didn't worry about it, but it troubled me. Later on, I realized that my children may have become even more self-directed as a result. It was so freeing to realize that I didn't need to be perfect.
My favorite advice to give homeschoolers now is simply that you don't need to be perfect.
PRO – You're with your children (and they're with each other) all the time. This is great for building relationships (and training children in relational skills!) and it's the foundation of discipleship.
The mixed-age setting is also excellent for learning and growth, both academically and socially.
CON – You're with your children (and they're with each other) all the time. It never stops. Let's face it, (almost?) all of us have days when we kind of wish we were putting our kids on the bus.
If we don't have good reasons for having made this choice, we probably won't have the gumption to persist through those hard days.
PRO – With homeschooling, kids can do and become anything. Because we have so much more flexibility there’s more time for them to perfect their talents and I have the opportunity to tailor their curriculum to meet their needs for what they want to do.
While still in school they’re already pursuing their entrepreneurial activities, and by the time they grow up, they’ll be so much further along.
CON – The only negative thing regarding homeschooling is simply the doubt and worry that sometimes hangs around the back of our minds from anyone who might oppose or question our lifestyle choice.
That's something that can truly test our faith, especially when we hear of difficulties that some homeschoolers have had.
Doing what we know is meant for our family and educating our children to the best of our ability is really the only answer for that.
PRO – Customization!
My youngest son has special needs and struggles with reading and writing. Homeschooling allows me to not only customize his school work, but also his siblings. Every child learns differently and at their own pace.
I love being able to mix and match curriculum and grade levels
to fit my children perfectly. I know being in control and custom fitting curriculum for my children has allowed each of them to blossom in their own way.
CON – As much as I love being with my children, my biggest con of homeschooling is being with them almost all of the time.
When you are homeschooling there is not a lot of quiet time for mom. If you are not teaching lessons you are cooking, cleaning, playing chauffeur, lesson planning, and every other part of what being a stay-at-home mom entails...
All while your children are underfoot, complaining about what you made for dinner, making endless messes, asking to go to the 10th place that day, and fighting with their siblings!
Just like everything there are good days and bad days.
My best advice is to make sure you take some time for yourself. Everyone will benefit if you get time to relax and do something just for you once in awhile.
Now I’ve Got a Question For You…
I'm so thankful to all the above individuals for sharing their insights. I had a lot of fun collecting all of this info, and I know I certainly learned a lot in the process.
What about you? Is there something on this list which struck you as particularly relevant to your situation? Which important takeaways will you be bringing to your own decision-making process? Any homeschooling pros and cons of your own you would like to share? Let us know in the comments!